Yeah you're right, i am owning it. You see this is your problem that you are guessing, you don't know the facts and you are causing and degrading other on your own beliefs, and that is what everyone else pointing out to you why they think you are selfish and narcissistic person. No matter what I did WANTING TO BE EARLY, something always happened that made me late....out of my control. Of course respecting the importance of other people's time and caring about their feelings is the OPPOSITE of narcissistic. hide. But just as we hate to be late, another cohort hates to be early. 85% Upvoted. And that amount of time is what sticks in his or her head as how long that thing takes. I am married to someone who demands I be chronically early. share | improve this question | follow | asked May 29 '12 at 20:22. esqew esqew. Being the one who's always running late means that everyone else always shows up way too early. In my head, it’s eternally a five-minute task. ), etc. I don’t know how ADHD has affected certain areas of my brain but this is one area that has been particularly frustrating over the years. So, that's cool, I guess. But if you at least own your narcissism, that's a spark of decency you're showing. In general terms, is appears as though people who are late are narcissistic and those who are early are conscientious. This dream means you are not paying enough attention to someone, being too focused on yourself. I have no problem with that. Chronically Late People Aren't Trying to Annoy or Disrespect You. Really? You can't play on your phone while you wait? It use to be extremely rude to be early--don't know when that changed. Being late to a date, whether it is a romantic date or a meeting with a friend, is another of distressing dreams. Posted by 6 years ago. The psychology behind why some people are always late - National | Globalnews.ca Experts say being late all the time becomes a habit when you know … Intriguing. Feeling feisty huh, good for you :) Yawn. I am coming from an extremely poor family and a poor country , i paid everything from my pocket. When you ask someone why they are perpetually late, they will often inform you that the typical or assumed reasons do not necessarily explain their habit. It doesn't always mean that there is something wrong with you, although being ignored may make you feel that way. After that they were at work just on time. Five minutes. But narcissists do NOT like being "outed" like that. When Friends Are Always Late Or Unreliable. * Being chronically extremely late for doctor's appointments will get you billed for the missed appointment and rescheduled and rebilled for another. I've been a studier of narcissism for a long time. Why does he take so long to text back? You really are full of yourself. But RE minor spelling, grammar or punctuation errors... Meh. If for some reason we must start at 7:30, he shows up at 7:35. what would be some causes and what should we do with him? I am just gonna be the smarter one here and leave you to argue with yourself, because probably you dont have with who other to talk. The most common include: While many individuals see being early as a virtue, many others don’t. Controllers, they control nothing but upset and unhappiness, while under the illusion of "being on top" when they're problem creators rather than solvers, through performing nothing more than incessant whining. Here’s what he had to say about this: “right there’s one thing that’s really getting on my nerves these days, and it’s girls agreeing to a time but then trying to change it last minute, then being late. I know lots of busy individuals who work and have kids of various ages, and a couple of these friends have special needs children, and yet somehow these friends are rarely if ever late, and on the rare occasions they are late they let the rest of us know (so as not to hold up the dinner or the departure or whatever) AND they apologize for being late. These people have problems. It’s not quirky. I never saidthat iiam chronically late. Those of you who are chronically extremely late and selfishly expect, even demand, that others will always just graciously adapt to YOUR lack of planning and inability to manage your time well, plus you are never even sorry for being So rude, and get all snippy, defensive and angry when your friends point out that this is a chronic Behavior of yours..... Well, then that is the behavior of a narcissist. Thus they ignore it just to end up thinking more and more about the same person. save. And I’m not late because I like to smell the roses or because I can see the big picture or because the future is full of infinite possibilities. If you happen to arrive five or ten minutes early, just sit in your car, think, read, pray, meditate, nap, use your phone, or listen to music. If you don’t know why someone is late, please don’t assume you have all the answers. I feel like an adult, so it’s easy to act like an adult.